I am definitely like no woman you have ever met before ;-)

Perhaps the difference with me is that I am honest and upfront with the people I meet online. I tell them upfront and it is in my profile that I am a BBW. I have had people that say I don't 'look' like a BBW...blah blah blah. A lot of my pics I really don't, but I really am LOL.

Saying that, I think a lot of women (and men) really have no intention of meeting someone or perhaps they don't think they will meet anyone they are interested in....but then they do meet interesting people, and they have lied about something about themselves, or used a pic that is not them.

That happened to me last week. *sigh* I had been talking to 'James' for 6 months or so, and he always acted very interested, but he never asked me out. He had told me that he was from England, and had been in the US for about 6 years. The pic he had posted was very attractive, but I honestly thought it looked a little 'too good.' LOL

We had many intelligent discussions over the course of time, and shared different parts of ourself. Finally he told me he was Muslim, and I questioned that, but he said that there was a large Muslim population in England (that was a new one on me but I didn't know that it was or was not true).

I had asked him a number of times for another pic, but he said he didn't have one. Well, I asked again last week, and the proverbial shyt hit the fan LMAO.

Seems like he isn't from England after all, he is 64 instead of 34, he is married with 10 children, etc. etc.

Now to answer your initial question LOL...If I feel that we have things in common and interesting things to discuss, I like to go on and meet someone and see where it goes. I do like to talk to them online enough to get a feel about them, how educated they seem to be, how they present themselves, etc.

I also like to see what phone numbers they OFFER me (I don't call men, though...old-fashioned Southern Belle thang). If they only give me an office or cell number, 9 times out of 10, they are married.

I have met someone for lunch the same day I met them online IF they are local (we had really hit it off) Distance makes it harder. I usually like to meet someone within a month or so normally if they are local. Distance...well that all depends when we can finally meet. I have a friend in San Diego I met online 8n years ago. We have tried to meet several times, but the logistics have kept it from working out yet. We do talk on the phone though occasionally.

Aye, maybe you should come hang out with me and my friends :-)

Are you going to the TRIBE Raleigh Happenings party next Sat. night at Metro? I am planning on it if I get better. I missed Mayday tonight because I have been sick for a week :-(